Not morally…
but procedurally, when working with a peer
and got CALLED OUT for it
Enter- a fire hose of 100 thoughts, feelings…
I freaked out (on the inside)- 100 thoughts, feelings
Defensiveness, Blame, Shame, Self-Loathing…
She said, … we were just in the same training and your’re supposed to…
I sensed her frustration
She said, … it really muddied the waters.
I that momnent
It’s true, I didn’t follow the procedure
I MADE THAT MEAN TERRIBLE THINGS ABOUT>>>ME
I messed up (and that’s terrible)
I shouldn’t have said that (I can’t trust myself)
I’m not good (I should crawl under a rock)
Yes my brain is dramatic AF and c’mon, so is yours.
BUT I caught myself
I questioned my brain- and truth is
- Messing up; being wrong- normal
2. I didn’t actually fail her here- I was trying something and she didn’t want to do what I suggested- and that’s okay.
3. I believe it might be a good thing- that I “muddied the waters” It could be the exact coaching she needed
4. I’m an intuitive, brilliant, insightful person-who can totally hold space for negative emotion.
Before I had the tools of coaching
Her reaction would have sent me into a PIT OF DOOM and bothered me for weeks, months…
Instead I cried and felt super cring-y for an hour
AND then I got to work and it was DONE
AND I created tons of growth and opportunity to hone my skills and to powerfully hold space for myself and my clients in their discomfort and frustration.
and I keep it movin’ with energy, motivation, inspiration, solutions,
“Catch your brain” so triggers don’t bother you and set you back for days, weeks, months…?
OPEN A NOTEBOOK
Ask yourself some POWERFUL QUESTIONS
Is this even true about me? why/why not?
When I bring up my thoughts about that- How does it make me feel (name the emotion)?
When I feel that way- what do I tend to do (list the actions, inactions, reactions)?
Do those actions, inactions, and reactions serve me and what I want for myself?
Awareness is the first part…
It will help you catch yourself quicker, course correct, have less set backs and save a ton of time and energy. YAY!!
Start there
…and when in doubt, be kind to yourself
As always, Love,
Angie
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